A friend of mine complained that one of my co-workers recently posted a photo on Facebook, making fun of people who have different views than his. I was disappointed but not surprised. This happens when you think you are right – to further support your position, others who disagree with you must …
It is much easier to do when your views are similar to a larger group because you have a majority standing with you – the strength is in the numbers. group thinking. It’s easy to criticize others when you feel a little risky of retaliation.
Social bullying is wrong, harmful, and divisive.
But the actor feels that his action is justified because he believes that his view is the only possible way. He wants to promote his point of view at all costs, even if it means rating, criticizing, and judging others.
This social phenomenon in corporations is no different from the influence of the Church in the Middle Ages. In this age of intellectual darkness, religious belief was dictating how people should think and act. Anyone who violates is labeled an outlaw and must be rehabilitated or persecuted. The trials that took place are an example that fueled mass hysteria, and the deaths of innocent men and women.
These may seem strange examples of companies, but they all share a common root system: a willingness to impose opinions on others and punish them for not complying with accepted text.
We don’t need more of this now. We need less, less because we live in unprecedented and extremely stressful times. But we all share a common goal: to get through this safely and build mercy.
When we are ridiculed or persecuted for the way we look, think or act, we shut up or bury ourselves even more and don’t fight back. In either case, the opportunity for open and honest dialogue diminishes as people solidify their positions, while the gap between them widens wider and deeper. The bigger the gap, the easier it is to argue. But no one wins an argument – there are only losers.
The way to bridge the gap is to be brave enough to ask, “What am I not aware of?”
It takes courage. Why? Because you have to make yourself weak. How do I? You have to admit that you don’t know everything. You run the risk of looking good by searching for the truth because you may discover that you are wrong or not know as much as you initially thought. You may even have to apologize, God forbid.
You may have to admit that those you persecuted for their views know something you probably didn’t. It’s insulting, and it hurts when you realize you were wrong. A person asks himself, “What do I not know?” He replaces arrogance with curiosity, judgment with frankness, division with the association, and argument with dialogue.
Life isn’t about being right – it’s about learning, growing, and finding your way to the truth.
A few years ago, my friend says, I started using the question “What do I not know?” When my boss asked me to build a relationship with another colleague who works in another department of my company. He said to me, “Get to know him.” I had my doubts because when I first met him at a social event, I found him a loud person, and unremarkable – and this kind of person is not suitable for my character – and I began to ask myself how you would overcome your impression of him at the party, and you will find a way of understanding between you at work.
We had an introductory meeting over the phone, and when we started the call, I said, “Why don’t we start talking about what we don’t know about each other?” He agreed, and we shared our professional and personal backgrounds and experiences and talked about the many stories, gains, and losses we’ve experienced within our different businesses. And the more we talked, the more we discovered how much we had in common, and got a glimpse into the true personality of each of us – how edgy he was, what made him scream so loud at the party. After an hour, I stopped thinking, “And I knew I could work with this guy.” We have collaborated in the few years that we have worked together and have remained good friends ever since.
It all started with a little curiosity.
My friend didn’t care when he offended his colleague or anyone else on Facebook. I believe that everyone has the right to express their views.
However, we do not agree that we have to be offensive in order to prove that others are wrong.
Our shattered world needs no further division. We need more therapy, tolerance of differences, and a desire to understand why a person’s thinking is different.
So, next time, before you pass judgment on someone, act on your incomplete information, and don’t assume that everyone thinks like you.
Ask yourself, “What do I not know about this situation, behavior, or person?”
Chances are you’ll find something of value and be glad you did. And in doing so, you will help make the world a little merciful.
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